Be THE most supportive birth partner ever

Be THE most supportive birth partner ever

Many partners feel as though pregnancy and birth is a time where all the attention is focused on the mother growing her little bundle .Partners can often feel as though they are on the outside and dont know what thie role is .

In fact your role IS vital- you can make such a difference to a mothers experience of labour and you can set yourself up to be the person she attributes to her amazing experience (no matter how her birth pans out)

By being involved and knowledgeable , she will likley brag about how amazing you were in supporting her through a very challenging but rewarding day .

One of the best things about hypno-birthing classes , is that partners report they gained confidence and knowledge which wa snot available through the hospital classes.

  1. Educate Yourself: Knowledge is power. Learn about the stages of labor, comfort measures, and your partner’s birth preferences. Attend hypno-birthing childbirth classes together if possible.
  2. Stay Calm and Positive: Your calm demeanor can be contagious. Encourage and reassure your partner throughout the process. During my hypno-birthing classes we will cover many tools including ” positive affirmations” which help you adjust your mindset and your partners
  3. Advocate for her wishes : Be familiar with your partner’s birth plan and preferences. Communicate these to the maternity team and help ensure they’re respected unless medically necessary.
  4. Provide Physical Comfort: Offer massage, counter-pressure, or help with breathing techniques. A simple light touch or holding hands can also be comforting.During hypnobirthing classes we will show you both light touch and accupressure points
  5. Keep her  Hydrated and Nourished: Offer water and snacks as allowed. Labor can be exhausting, and staying hydrated and fueled is important.
  6. Create a Relaxing Environment: Dim the lights, play soothing music, or use aromatherapy if desired. Help your partner find a comfortable position.
  7. Be Present: Your emotional support is invaluable. Listen actively, offer encouragement, and be there every step of the way.
  8. Stay Informed: Keep updated on the progress of labor and ask questions if something isn’t clear. This shows your commitment to being involved and informed.
  9. Be Flexible: Birth plans may need to  change, if  unexpected situations  arise. Be adaptable and supportive of decisions made for the well-being of your partner and baby.
  10. Celebrate Together: Once your baby arrives, share in the joy and celebrate this special moment as a team. Your support doesn’t end with labor; being a supportive partner continues into the postpartum period as well.

When you attend my hypno-birthing/positive birth preparation classes either online or in person-you and your partner will gain knowledge tools and confidence to meet the challenges and triumphs of birth


Top tips for choosing an OB in Adelaide

What’s the lowdown on choosing an obstetrician for birth

Choosing an obstetrician for birth is an important decision that involves a number of considerations


•  Check the out of pocket expenses for your obstetrician , paediatrician and anaesthetist ( in case you decide to have an epidural)
• Many couples choose to see a private OB because they have private insurance BUT don’t realise there are a lot of out of pocket expenses $$$

Philosophy and Approach:

Does  the obstetrician’s approach to childbirth align with your preferences, such as a natural birth, epidural use,

Communication and shared decision-making are crucial.(Of course best laid plans can certainly change , requiring interventions )

• When you look at their website – do you get the feeling they’re more c section focused !
• Their website may give you a good indicator of their values
• Ask the receptionist for their c section and induction rates•
WHO says c section rates should be 10-15 percent BUT in Australia our rates are around 30 percent – an OB with rates of 40-50 percent is concerning
• When you sign up with an OB you must be aware the medical view of birth is one of managing risk – which may sound comforting BUT can come with a very interventionalist view of birth

Where would you like to birth

•Ensure the obstetrician is affiliated with a birthing hospital that you are comfortable with and is conveniently located.
• You may not know if you’d like your birth in water right now – but it’s a great way to labour and reduces the need for pain relief significantly – most private hospitals in South Australia DO NOT “allow” water birth but your OB may have rights at a public hospital that does .

The OB support team

• Inquire about the obstetrician’s support team, including midwives.

  • Some OBs have midwives attached to the practise who can spend time providing you with more education about childbirth and breastfeeding

• Understand their availability for antenatal visits, emergencies, and labor.

  • Will they be available when your due date approaches ?
  • What are their backup arrangements?
  • Are you just as comfortable with their back up OB ?

Continuity of care with a known midwife is important

• Usually the midwives in an OB practise are there to check BP and have a brief chat before your

  • Continuity of care with a midwife is associated with lower rates of stillbirth, prem birth and greater satisfaction

Just because your friend loved their OB doesnt mean that is the right fit for you

• Patient Reviews and Recommendations: Read reviews from other patients and seek recommendations from friends, family, or online communities. Personal experiences can offer valuable insights.

• Communication Style: Consider their communication style and how comfortable you feel asking questions, expressing concerns, and discussing your birth plan with them.

• If you feel that you can’t discuss your preferences on an even playing field – they’re not the OB for you


• Postnatal Care: Discuss their approach to postnatal care, including follow-up appointments, breastfeeding support, and postpartum wellness.

Some OBs have midwives within the practise who can provide extensive lactation support for you after birth – you may want to meet with a lactation consultant (LIKE ME ) before birth to ensure you know what to expect and what you can do to minimise nipple pain after birth

By considering these factors and conducting thorough research, you can choose an obstetrician who aligns with your needs and preferences, ensuring a positive and safe childbirth experience

If you would like to discuss your options please contact kate

Who is kate bergamasco ?

Who is Kate Bergamasco ?

Let’s throwback to student midwife Kate Bergamasco –

This was me when I began my midwifery career. Although when I was 17 and fresh out of school.I knew from the time I was 16 when I witnessed a birth on work experience that I wanted to be a midiwfe
So this photo is me living my dream 

I was 22 years old and this was me during my midwifery training at Modbury hospital.My midwifery training days were focused on learning about how birth happened.We were taught to listen to mothers, build a rapport with families and become proficient at monitoring mums and babies through pregnancy , birth and the postnatal period..

By the end of the 12 month course we were all too aware that while we had passed our exams and delivered many babies, we still needed to gain a lot more experience .There was so much more to learn and I acknowledge now, 33 years on , I will never know everything.

I was very conscious even as a 22 year old graduate that my knowledge about helping mums breastfeed was limited.

WILL  I be able to breastfeed if my mother couldn’t ?

In 1990 so many practises we adopted with breastfeeding caused so much pain for mothers.We used to bath babies within the first hour of birth, we cut the umbilical cord as soon as the baby was out, we wrapped baby and THEN handed b aby to mum for her first breastfeed.We didnt know then the value of skin on skin or the golden hour.

I can remember mums with bleeding painful nipples trying to tolerate breastfeeds.and then sitting with red lamps faced toward their nipples to dry them out with the belief it would +toughen + them up.

No wonder so many mothers stopped breastfeeding before they even left hospital..

This experience is what lead e to study to be a  lactation consultant  , I wanted to ensure i could have a positive impact on mothers feeding journey.

Fortunately over the past 30 years our knowledge and practises have improved greatly and Im always quick to reasure mums whose own mothers couldnt breastfeed (in the 1990s) that our techniques have improved .

How have things changed ?

  • Skin on skin 
  • The golden hour
  • Rooming baby in with mum 
  • Not bathing baby in the first 3 days of birth
  • Giving mums and partners antenatal education on breastfeeding 




How to have an active birth

How to have an active birth

An active birth is often the key to achieving a vaginal birth with less need for pharmacological pain relief.

Your body i built for birth but with impact of TV, internet and medical involvement in this natural process, society has lost perspective.We see so many dramatic birth, we hear so many traumatic stories and medical science crates such a fear , that we have lost perspective.

In fact research shows that women who are well informed about how the female body , hormones and environment work in sync, have more positive bieth outcomes than women who only receive standard childbirth education.

What is the difference ?

In standard childbirth classes, women are informed about medications, procedures and hospital policies.

Information is often presented in such a way that women and partners feel they dont have choices about procedures.

STaff are employed by the hospital and therefore the content is dictated by the organization.

Independant childbirth classes

Provide evidence based, natural   , positive and empowering information.Couples are provided with more infomration on how the hormones worlk with the body to promote natural labour.

Youll recive information about different positions, breathing techniques, accupressure points and undrstand how they work with your body to promote natural birth

Accupre4ssure pointslight touchPr4essure points help labour

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